This is how you build trust

So often we’ll blame our difficulty in making decisions, our scepticism about the success of our plans, our inability to move on from hurt, our suspiciousness about turning a totally new corner…. We blame it on all trust.

We say “I have trust issues”, I say:

We don't have trust issues - we have listening deficiencies.

Trust is crucial. It is a vital step towards wholeness. It is a necessary step towards working with the universe. It is a bridge between the known and the unknown.

How do we build trust?

We start to listen!

Listen to your heart’s voices that tell you - “Yes, go for it!” OR “No - it’s not that.” Listen to the invisible signs that give you a sense of expansion or contraction. Listen to the synchronicities, the bubbling sounds of joy or the withered body that knows the unforeseen loss and betrayal.

You don’t need to understand everything. In fact we don’t need to understand much at all. But what we do desperately need is to able to follow the whispers of the wild heart - this, is how you build trust.

Often we feel the greatest sadness not when someone else has betrayed us but when we discover we have actually betrayed ourselves by playing it too small or by ignoring unspoken messages that told us how this story is going to go.

“Before you know kindness as the deepest thing inside,

you must know sorrow as the other deepest thing” wrote Naomi Shihab Nye in her poem kindness.

We can’t skip straight to total bliss and wholeness without knowing what sadness really is.

We can’t skip straight to the wholeness of trust without listening to the rustle of spring in your heart