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Healthy and Unhealthy Emotional Security

You are always safe, my love.

Nothing will hurt you.

No matter what you say,

pleasing to the ears of others

or troubling and confronting,

you are still safe. Your heart knows

that honest words

build a nest

where you can truly rest.

It is safe to feel, my love.

No matter how charged or challenging

your feelings may be,

when they already move through your heart

they’re like a magnificent thunder bolt

that can only brighten the skies

without breaking them down.

And the rain, my love,

the rain

is the shower that cleanses your soul.

It is safe to want what you want.

No matter if it seems as far

as the horizon line,

fleeting as the wings of a butterfly,

what your heart yearns for

has a safety belt

that will hold you

throughout any bumpy ride.

The only thing that is unsafe for your heart, my love,

is to deny yourself the freedom

to be, to feel, to love

who you are

right at this moment.

Everything will change in your life. Thoughts about what should happen, financial gain, the value of your professional experience, friendships, future plans, decisions, promises made or given, wishes and dreams, statues, your whole view of life.

Even the worst scary or vicious thoughts change and pass away.

Even what feels good right now will change and pass away.

Even who you thought you are becoming doesn’t feel now exactly as you had imagined it in your mind.

A healthy emotional security then, starts from landing onto the ground

of this moment, with awareness parachute, opening

your heart wide as the skies

to whatever is present

at the core

of its lively honest pulse.

Whatever you avoid

shapes you as much as

what you face.

Only that what you avoid

creates holes in your heart

and what you face

fills is more than you

could have imagined.


Creating a healthy emotional security

when we reach out to fulfil heart-wishes

and life dreams can be confusing.

We want to reach towards the new

but it doesn’t feel all that safe to leave the old,

and the new, oh it can be exciting but also intimidating.

If you wanted to create a safe space where you can reach out

towards your heart-wishes with greater ease and confidence,

I have a workshop coming up:

BEYOND THE GUILT TRIP: Life Alignment and meditation workshop To go for what you want with ease and confidence September 19th 2.30-5.00PM CET 95 CHF

☞ The workshop is held on Zoom.

☞ If you can’t attend you’ll get a recording. (I do really recommend you attend unless your time zone doesn’t allow you to).

☞ The workshop is a blend of group coaching, meditation, self-reflection and paired intentional conversation.

This workshop is for you if:

  • You feel burdened by guilt, shame or frustration when there’s something that you want and is out of reach at the moment.

  • You’re not comfortable with wanting the things/experiences you’re wanting for yourself

  • You want to be relived from feeling you want too much and find the courage to stand up for your heart-wishes.

  • You're looking for tools to handle the difficult emotions that come up with wanting something so you can experience the process with ease and joy.

  • You are looking for a different perspective and insight into the deeper reasons for why you want you want

  • You know what you want but you’d like to get a clearer picture of how to built emotional resilience to support your process

This workshop is not for you if:

  • You feel quite good with the process of wanting something and not seeing results for some time.

  • You know how to comfortably handle emotional neediness that often comes with wishes and dreams

  • You’re not having second thoughts or self-doubt about wanting what you want

  • You are confident when things you wanted turn out differently than what you’ve planned or wished for


Is 2.5 hours workshop not too much?

This workshop includes some self reflection time, meditation, pair work and group intentional conversations. So time will fly and also you won't be starring at a screen for the whole period of time.

What if I don't know what I want in my life right now?

Then this workshop is designed for you. You'll get some very helpful tools to clarify why you're not in touch with something that you want

This is what people like you said:

“It was very surprising and helpful to learn that there is such an easy way to find out what if what I want is true.. Thank you Shelly for sharing your wisdom” Nadya, Zurich

“It was very hands on. i know now what i want and have made plans how to achieve it in the now” Melanie, Zurich

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