If you've ever tried setting boundaries, with your mother or anyone else, but it was tough or didn't work - you did nothing wrong!
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There's a clear and easy-to-fix reason why women find it difficult or impossible to set boundaries, especially women who've had a challenging relationship with their mother
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I'd like to invite you to:
SIMPLIFYING BOUNDARIES
How healing the mother wound grows unapologetic boundaries that let you rest
Many women who've had a challenging relationship with their mother, women who felt responsible for their mother's well being or happiness for whatever reason, often have a problem with setting boundaries.
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It manifests as difficulty to say or ask what you need from others, prioritising your needs or perceptions without feeling selfish, feeling guilty or simply yucky for stating which behaviours you're willing or not willing to accept, amongst other ways of pleasing and keeping silent when you wished you could speak up.
You might think it's your fault, that you should know how to set boundaries better by now or that you need to work harder on yourself and I want you to know--none of it is true. Boundaries are not just on you!
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Besides the fact that most women with a mother wound were never modelled healthy setting of personal boundaries, the mother wound is reinforced in our day to day life when women are not taken seriously, are expected to to not ask or want for too much and br accommodating, not challenging.
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I know, it sounds crazy even to just write it but it's a matter of fact ghat we experience whether explicitly or implicitly. The bottom line is that setting boundaries is not just about what you say or do. Which is why boundaries don't work so well for you.
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WITHOUT HEALTHY BOUNDARIES IN PLACE THERE'S A SENSE
THAT YOU'RE NOT ENTIRELY IN CONTROL OVER YOUR
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After working with many women on healing the mother wound, I’ve learned how important it is to understand how to set boundaries unapologetically so you can feel restful.
JOIN IN: SIMPLIFYING BOUNDARIES EXPERINAR
How healing the mother wound grows unapologetic boundaries that help you rest
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This is a live experinar (meaning an experience-based webinar).
Use the button below to save your sit.
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When you join, you subscribe. You'll receive a few welcome emails covering the key aspects of healing the mother wound as well as my regular muzeletters.
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The experinar is about 40-50 minutes--10 minutes teaching, 15 minutes practices, 15 minutes Q&A. I'll take as much time as needed to answer all questions.
Upsell? The experinar doesn't lead you on in order to sell something exclusive at the end.
I will offer you to work with me 1:1 if you'd wish so, as I have some spaces freed up. You can join to simply enjoy the experinar or to get a sense of what my work is about.
"Develop enough courage so you can stand up for yourself"
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Maya Angelou
BUT HOW TO DEVELOP THIS COURAGE?
THE TWO BIGGEST MISCONCEPTIONS ABOUT BOUNDARIES & HEALING THE MOTHER WOUND
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In this experinar, I’ll touch on two approaches that send misleading and even harmful messages about setting boundaries and the mother wound:
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1.Just say No
The common practice that boundaries are about saying No is very misleading. For sensitive women it can feel very harsh and in general focusing on saying No feels off putting. Instead, Boundaries have more to do with your presence, your feeling and dismantling limiting beliefs.
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2. It's all on you
Boundaries are a way to define relationships in a way that'll make you feel seen, appreciated and empowered. So it can't be just what you do or say or how hard you work on yourself. It's a matter of understanding how to lead or hold any kind of relationship in a way that will give you what you wish for.
Hi, I’m Shelly
Over the past 15 years I’ve been working with women worldwide, helping them deepen the healing of their mother wound so they could feel free to be fully themselves, to have supportive relationships and success in their career.
My work is influenced by 20 years of intensive meditation training with world-renowned teachers, Jungian dreamwork, Hakomi psychotherapy, Polyvagal theory, Buddhist psychology and trauma-informed practices but also my own journey of healing my mother wound, moving through infant starvation, childhood neglect and abandonment.
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In a world that teaches you how to not be yourself, I believe that each woman who reclaims her sovereignty helps restore the balance we need in the world.
IN THIS TRAINING WE'LL GET THROUGH THREE THINGS:​
1. Simplifying boundaries and why it's a key to healing the mother wound
2. ​Simple practices you can apply immediately to embody boundaries
3. Answering questions from you
JOIN IN: SIMPLIFYING BOUNDARIES EXPERINAR
How healing the mother wound grows unapologetic boundaries that help you rest
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This is a live experinar (meaning an experience-based webinar).
Use the button below to save your sit.
​
When you join, you subscribe. You'll receive a few welcome emails covering the key aspects of healing the mother wound as well as my regular muzeletters.
​
The experinar is about 40-50 minutes--10 minutes teaching, 15 minutes practices, 15 minutes Q&A. I'll take as much time as needed to answer all questions.
Upsell? The experinar doesn't lead you on in order to sell something exclusive at the end.
I will offer you to work with me 1:1 if you'd wish so, as I have some spaces freed up. You can join to simply enjoy the experinar or to get a sense of what my work is about.
“I was such a complete mess when I found you, and you helped me transform into this secure, and grounded person I feel I am now. Now I know what you mean by becoming unlimited.
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I have heard of the term “mother wound” before but I didn’t really consider my experience to be related to or similar to that. I was always doubting myself and somehow felt that it’s my fault for not having a better relationship with my mom, that I’m responsible for making her happy.
I now feel a sense of wholeness and confidence, like coming home to myself."
~Criselda Ilao, USA