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5 tips on how to ask questions leading to answers

Who doesn't want to get answers? Who does not have the desire or even the great urge to have their questions answered?

Questions have a major intuitive role in our lives, even though no one really taught us how to do it properly.

Why was 'why' put in the closet

When people come to me for intuitive guidance and channelling, they usually come with scattershot questions. You need to frame a question from all the personal life stories and intense emotions, and suddenly you find that it is difficult to come up with a question that is clear, one which will help you receive a beneficial answer.

Do you remember that stage in your life when you asked ‘why’ about each and every thing? Most likely you were silenced, and with it your intuitive inquiry mechanism was silenced too.

We are not really encouraged to ask meaningful questions. There’s a perception that the ‘knower’ commands a position of respect in society. If you ask a question it means you don't know, and if you don't know – who knows what it says about you..... And on top of all that, the whole superstructure of blame and shame is erected. Everything has to be practical and objective because the subjective has no collective value.

Subjective experience has to be recognised. As long as we have consciousness we have experience. When experience is not recognised, you are trapped in this paradoxical disassociation between Self and life. Like my father, who after a workshop will ask me: "Well, how was it?" To which I reply that it was wonderful. “No,” he will say, “I mean, did you get any money out of it?”.....

Responsibility is not a rude word

1. Instead of meaning to ask one thing and asking another, know that whatever you will ask will get an answer. No one aside from you either needs or even has the ability to guess what you really want to ask and know, hence asking is taking responsibility: it is to be responsible for the path you have chosen to walk on.

My meditation teacher, Christopher Titmus, breaks the word ‘responsibility’ into two parts: ‘response-ability’. Responsibility is above all the ability to be present and react in a beneficial way to the current event. In Hebrew, it works out as ‘after-being’. First learn to be, then pay attention to what follows your solid presence. Responsibility is the continuation of your presence, the resulting outline of your presence here and now. In this process there’s no room for shame. There’s room for openness and receiving, for personal inquiry and asking questions.

Finding the answer in the body of the question