Making the Unbelievable Possible, or a Fix for a Sense of Brokenness?!
The news about my grandmother passing away came in just as I was settling in for the night in a chalet, high up in the mountains of Lago Santo, Italy.
It was the summer of 2012 and I had just moved from Israel to Switzerland.
Instead of having the time to adapt to my new life with my beloved, I was catapulted back to Israel because my mother had had (yet another) mental crisis and someone needed to take care of my grandfather immediately.
I purchased a round-ticket to Israel and back in the knowledge that I was going there only to sign the papers to sell my grandfather’s apartment and bring him back to be close to us in Switzerland.
Much to my surprise, my mother had other plans for me.
She had managed to find a lawyer to issue what turned out to be an illegal petition against me and the sale of the house, and a judge to sign what turned out to be an illegal restraining order against me leaving the country.
It was an impossible situation, yet it happened.
“I thought I had dealt with her,” I complained to myself. I had not been expecting yet another drama from my mother.
Women who’ve had dramas with their mothers know how it feels when you think you’re past the triggers, past the dramas, past the stories or past the pain—and suddenly find yourself needing yet again to give attention and energy to familiar situations.
Healing the mother wound is not a fix to a sense of brokenness of yourself, your mother or your relationship
“My story has a long history,” many women say when they start telling me why or how they’ve suffered in their relationship with their mothers.
“I guess I just need to learn how to live with this,” they continue, expressing a poignant mix of despair and hope that they might, in the end, be proved be wrong.
There used to be a time when I believed that my mother’s dramas would be a part of my life forever.
That summer, I stayed in Israel for two months instead of the one week I had planned initially.
In that time, I accomplished much more than simply extricating myself from a barely imaginable legal bind my mother had concocted for me; much more than simply selling my grandfather’s home and using my time in Tel-Aviv to eat good Israeli food, go to yoga and pay daily visits to the Gordon swimming pool.
I freed myself from an umbilical cord I believed I was chained to. Since that time, I haven’t had any further dramas from my mother (11 years and counting).
Did my mother change? Not really. She’s still sick, but our relationship has changed.
When you change the way you see yourself, others change the way they see you and your role in their life
Like many women who deal with a mother wound, I was in victim consciousness.
Like many women I believed—completely unconsciously—that I could live my own life only through submission to the way things are.
But in that summer of 2012, I took those two months to alchemise years of working through my mother wound, diving deep into the beliefs that were to the exterior design of my life the interior body of my emotional being.
As you unchain yourself from deep-seated beliefs about yourself and your relationship with your mother, you gain new core beliefs that make the unbelievable possible.
The day comes
when difficulty and drama
become tasteless
and ease melts in your mouth
like sweet ice cream
And I want that day for you to happen sooner than later. Which is why I’m starting a coaching group for healing the mother wound.
Today was supposed to be the last day of the early-bird registration.
But since I didn’t give you fair reminder, caught up as I was with the free workshop I gave two days ago and the amazing follow-up conversations I had with women who are interested in joining the coaching group, I’m pushing the early-bird sign-up to August 11th (11.8.22: numerologically speaking a powerful number).
Join early and you’ll have access to a further free workshop called Working Through Triggers.
Here are all the details:
WOMEN OF WHOLENESS
Ongoing healing the mother wound coaching group
Starting September 5th
An intimate group of eight women (6 spots left)
Meeting bi-monthly, Mondays 18.00-19.30 CET
Two special workshops with guests within the six month (three if you join by 11.8.22)
Attractive rates for this round of launching—pay monthly or in one payment
A commitment of six months of participation is required, to avoid the sense of revolving doors
Access to a private resource page packed with meditations and guided materials and videos
Access to me via email for coaching questions on the go
A safe environment with like-hearted women
Shelly’s helping women on a journey of healing the mother wound who are dealing with the ways it limited their sense of self, relationships or the success of their calling and want to reach deeper levels of healing and step into their wholeness
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