top of page

Buddhist Psychology Principle: The Truth about Comfortable

Healing the mother wound often feels like an inescapable struggle. Our relationship with our mother can leave a lasting scar that we desperately wish to move beyond. But what if the path to healing isn't about escaping this pain or striving for comfort? The Buddhist psychology principle: The truth about comfortable, shows us how we unlock deeper healing without the tiring need to run away from that pain. This post explores how, by leaning into wholesome-discomfort, we transform our wounds into the very source of strength and wisdom that guides us to true peace.


buddhist psychology and leap of faith


It’s human to avoid pain. Whether it’s the deep wry of the heart or the irritating sting of the body our instinctive aim is to flow towards the sweet and beautiful nectar of life like a bee to a flower. The Buddhist psychology principle on teh truth about discomfort can help mitigate the fear of emotional pain.


The pain tied to our relationship with our mother—weather it came through criticism, overprotection, neglect, volatility, abuse or anything else—often feels like a wound we cannot escape, no matter how much we try. In fact, we are wired to expect safety, guidance and nourishment from our mother and that expectation alone can feel like an unbearable source of frustration.


We turn to healing to find a way to stop that pain, to move beyond it and be free from it. This wholehearted wish - to stop suffering - stands at the core of the Buddhist teachings. While the mind and body may recoil from the distress of a painful maternal relationship, this Buddhist Psychology principle is taking us into the chambers of the heart, where we can witness how it makes the sweet nectar of life from that very suffering we want to escape from.


The Buddha made 4 main claims about the nature of life. The first one is:

There is suffering.


This simple, yet radical recognition leads us to a genuine well of healing.

In essence, this claim goes again the stream of modern culture that strives for comfort and the comfortable at any rate.


We’ve come to treat comfort as a goal, a value—an indication of success, of progress. We are taught that comfort is the thing we strive toward, that it marks the point where we’ve “made it.”


For example, we move out of our childhood home, escape the reach of our mother’s influence, and for a moment, we breathe. We feel liberated. Yet, soon we find ourselves reaching for more—a bigger house, a more prestigious career, the perfect life—and with each new pursuit, the undercurrent of suffering reappears, quietly but insistently.


This sets our attitude towards life, which we then bring to healing processes.


We’d be tempted to measure progress in healing with how comfortable we feel in the process or how quickly can we attain a more comfortable feelings and sates of mind towards our mother or the related life challenges.


Instead, leaning the Buddhist psychology approach to healing the mother wound is not about seeking comfort or avoiding discomfort. It is about embracing what is referred to as wholesome discomfort.


Here are the core measure you can use when applying the buddhist psychology principle applied into healing the mother wound:


1. Feeling comfortable is over-rated. Instead, learn to endure wholesome-discomfort and let your heart unfold into a more open, spacious and hospitable attitude towards familiar pain and discomfort


2. Meet discomfort with curiosity. Explore the novelty of wholesome-discomfort as new capacities, states of mind or beliefs become new possibilities in the vocabulary of your heart.


3. Observe your realtionships. As these new believes, states of mind and perceptions become more familiar, they will be embodied and you’ll witness changes in all your relationships.



The path to healing the mother wound is not about escaping pain, but about learning to move through it with tenderness and care for every human experience. That is what the Buddhist Psychology Principle: The Truth of Comfortable shows us. Applied to a healing process, we learn how to let go of the need for comfort, so we come home to ourselves in a deeper way where the foundations of this home of feeling genuinely comfortable with our childhood wound and who we are becoming.



Want to learn how Buddhist psychology coaching and Hakomi therapy can help you heal the mother wound? - Click below and schedule a first complimentary call. We'll take time to share what's on your heart and how my way of working can help you as it has helped dozens of women with a mother wound:


 

Not sure yet? No problem!


Here are a couple of ways to learn about healing the mother wound:

Sign up to my Museletter for regular, useful content on healing the mother wound

Take my video training on breaking free from mother wound limiting beliefs


healing the mother wound coaching

Shelly's helping women who've had a complex relationship with their mother and want to unplack the way it shaped them so they can become unlimited in their personal or professional life








Comments


Commenting has been turned off.

More for you...

Categories

cover image.png
bottom of page