The Simple Truth You Need to Know about Beliefs
without piling some new-age stuff about limiting beliefs …
“If you have money it will be taken away from you.”
I was shocked to hear this voice. But I knew immediately that it came from my mother.
My first reaction was: “No way! That’s stupid. Non-sense.” But I’m also well-versed enough in the dance of the inner world’s movement to know I shouldn’t cancel that voice out like that.
My ego doesn’t like to see inherited voices whispering in dark corners at the back of the stage. But the wiser part of my being knows how to deal with that.
We were doing an exercise with my business coach as part of his pre-workshop for the business model course we’ll be starting next week. We were looking at providing a new architecture for my business to accommodate the expansion of my business.
The exercise began by revealing the foundations of the inner world.
How can we grow anything in life if the inner foundations of our beliefs are made of rusty old chains, ancient fears and worn out designs?!
My mother stole money from the family for years. I learned about it one morning when I was 16. Waking up to an eerily silent house, it wasn't difficult to notice in our two-room house that my mum’s bed was empty, the beddings untouched.
She had had a mental crisis, or perhaps her conscious part was catching up with the fact she had stolen a huge amount of money from us. And now, the night before my grandparents were due to arrive in Israel to visit us, she didn‘t want to be exposed. She panicked.
I was the teenager, but it was my mother who ran away from home.
I was left to take care of my younger sister. At the end of the summer holiday, after my grandparents had returned to Switzerland, my sister and I were tossed between different family members who didn’t really want us.
And as if that was not enough, my mother sneaked back at some point just to sell the house. She took the money from the sale abroad and blew it all.
The trauma of being torn from by my mother—however sick she was—from my home—however small it was—from my childhood photo albums, clothes and every single object I had—however little that was—shaped the way I looked at money, felt about money, treated money.
A belief has roots in the events of your life but the direction they’ll grow in and what they’ll turn into is mostly not straightforward.
Often we’re the last ones to notice the limiting beliefs and the way they manage our behaviours
Years later I made my own wealth but couldn’t hold on to it. There were always ways to blow the money.
Did I make the connection? No.
More years later I inherited money from my grandparents and couldn’t hold on to it. Did I know that there was something hidden in me driving me to blow it all? Not really, though by that time I had some handle on the inner being.
If we could have believed whatever we wanted we would all have been by now flying unicorns with millions in the bank. But beliefs are not new-age affirmations you can repeat every morning and turn into reality.
We cannot not have beliefs but we can learn to see those that limit our emotional body, those that keep us attached to past narratives and learn how to undo them. It’s the most delicate, profound and exciting inner work I know.
The result of the years of inner house cleaning is the ability to see those beliefs much more quickly, have the tools to dissolve their presence and hold on to the beliefs that create your own life‘s choreography.
To flesh out your beliefs you need three tools:
a walking stick
and a beautiful bag.
Your psyche does not care about practicality. Well, not in the manner that we, the descendants of modern civilisation perceive practicality. It speaks in symbols that may not help you pay the bills but are immensely helpful in solving the most mysterious and nagging questions that prevent you from being happy and utterly free.
The images that come up from your inner being will carry a meaning that your heart resonates with immediately and easily. The answers and tools you need are encoded in symbols.
The simple truth about beliefs is that they’re easy enough to notice once you’re willing to use the vernacular of your heart
If you’re not privy to the language of your heart you’ll immediately dismiss those images as random products of the imagination.
You’ll probably explain them away them with rational excuses (“I just saw a movie about that so it stayed in my mind”). You’ll even feel uncomfortable or ashamed that those images surfaced and you’ll try to hide them (as much as possible even from yourself).
And that’s why you’ll need a walking stick. You’ll need something to help you pace your rhythm just like when walking over wild, natural terrain. Slow and observant to witness both the beauty and the danger.
If you only stopped to dig the deeper meaning that sits at the kernel of each image you’ll have a wealth that is practical in handling both your inner and outer world.
Once you stop at the feet of limiting beliefs and discover the beautiful beliefs of your true nature you would want to have a beautiful bag to carry the ones that nourish your presence.
We have a choice—which beliefs to keep and which ones to give back to those who planted them inside us
Beliefs are part of our inner nature just like wild orchids and snakes are part of the earth.
It’s not possible to be without beliefs but it’s possible to discover which ones don’t really belong to us and it’s time to let them go back to the wild and which are worth cultivating.
When you see a beautiful belief that can grow into a shimmering presence you want to know how to hold on to it.
You don’t have to do it alone!
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Shelly’s helping women on a healing journey of the mother wound who are struggling with the ways it affected their sense of self, relationships or career success and want to reach deeper levels of healing and step into their wholeness
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