10 Lessons 2018 Taught Me

1. Always go for what you want

Life is what you make of it. Starting from the moment you wake up to how you face everything else the day brings to your door. There are no promises that what you want will happen in the way that you want it to, in the time that you want it to, but if you continue on the path of what feels right deep in your bones, in your inner knowing - it will happen. And often (if not always) in the timing and manner most suited to you such that you yourself couldn’t have planned it.

It’s not a New Age lesson in making miracles and manifestations. Life is a miracle, so everything that unfolds out of life is by nature a miracle. The thing is that we take so much for granted. Once I stopped taking things for granted, for instance my body was the biggest one for me in 2018, I realised that everything that happens is a miracle. If each day you look for one thing you take for granted and shift your view about it as if it was a miracle you’ll experience a radical shift in the way you experience your life and the path to achieve what you really want.

2. Loneliness is not always separateness

Loneliness is a natural experience and a natural part of life. It’s not the enemy even though it’s viewed as one of the worst experiences possible (and it’s topped up with shame). Loneliness can be a deep desire to share something that is unsharable. No matter how much we try communicate about it, it stays sheathed in a gentle transparent tissue of personal experience which you just cannot share. This is why loneliness is not always a problem but simply an experience in life. An autonomous experiences that we need to learn how to contain.

No one can really understand the difficulties of the health-related process I went through in 2018. No matter how much I talked about it, and I had few very compassionate and understanding souls around me, there was still something in the experience I could simply not share. But the moment I stopped viewing these experiences, theses moments, as a problem, loneliness was no longer so lonely.

3. Never let anyone tell you what you can or cannot do

People have opinions. Endless. I find very little interest in opinions. I’m much more interested in insights, reflections, contemplations, feelings, sharing of the heart. Opinions are often like a cat’s spray - a simple marking of the territory. It