Come Back to Love: Robyn Vogel's New Book
- Feb 5
- 4 min read
Updated: Feb 13
Many women don’t realise they’re carrying a loss of trust in love until it quietly repeats itself—in relationships that disappoint, in self-talk that turns harsh, or in a deep fatigue around intimacy itself. Often, this loss is rooted in the mother wound, formed early in life when love felt unsafe, inconsistent, or suddenly taken away. In Come Back to Love, Robyn Vogel shares her deeply personal story, revealing how an early rupture can shape a lifetime—how the loss of trust in love motivated her mother wound healing journey and how she found her way to come back to love.
Many women don’t realise they’ve lost trust in love until they notice they keep getting trapped in similar intimate relationships that are disappointing or when they get tired of speaking to themselves harshly and find it difficult to let love in .
Robyn found her shift after her deep loss of trust in love twenty years after her mother passed away suddenly.
Come Back to Love is Robyn Vogel's new book about her healing the mother wound journey.
I first met Robyn when she participated in the Mother Wound Summit I co-hosted in 2024.
Robyn is one of the rare women I know who doesn’t pretend to have it all sorted while having deep wisdom in healing as a certified therapist. Her fierce and honest journey of healing for her mother wound is inspiring.
Robyn told me she had been on a long journey of healing her mother wound, yet I didn’t know the full background until I was a guest on her radio show. That was when she shared that she lost her mum when she was ten years old—a sudden death for her, though not for the rest of her family.
That moment marked the beginning of a deep loss of trust in love—one that shaped her inner world for years.
The mother wound exists on a spectrum—not as a fixed diagnosis or a medical label.
The mother wound is a rupture in our relationship with ourselves, with others, and with life itself, rooted in a primary rupture with our mother.
When this rupture happens early, it often disrupts our capacity to trust love—its presence, its continuity, and its safety.
I’ve worked with women who were given up for adoption, women whose mothers passed away when they were young, and women whose mothers disappeared without explanation. These are all ways the rupture can occur through maternal absence, leaving lasting marks and often a profound loss of trust in love that calls for healing.
Robyn discovered her mum’s passing one afternoon when she walked home from school, as her dad waited for her in his car a short distance from the house. As she approached, he said, “Your mother died this morning.”
The news came as a complete shock. So did the silence—both while her mother was ill and in the years after her death.
Love didn’t just disappear on Robyn; it became unreachable and unsafe.
The mother wound never happens in a vacuum.
It unfolds within family dynamics, cultural norms, and societal systems that often reinforce the rupture rather than repair it.
When a daughter’s loss remains unacknowledged—whether the mother is physically present or not, she learns early on not only to survive without love, but “live perfectly” without it.
Robyn writes about her story and the healing methods she developed over many years of healing, studying and practicing in a captivating, tender, and deeply honest way.
I was deeply honoured when Robyn invited me to read her draft, offer an endorsement, and create a bonus gift for those who—very justly—feel compelled to pre-order her book.
YOU'RE INVITED 🐦🔥
Pre-order Robyn Vogel’s book, Come Back to Love, between 7–9 February, and you’ll receive a free BirthRite Journal from me.
Created as a companion to my private podcast, BirthRite, this journal invites you to go a step deeper.
This journal helps you unpack the ways you’ve learned to perform showing up while maintaining identities that no longer support who you’ve become—so you can move beyond performing to be and come back to loving who you truly are.
More than simple writing prompts, this journal supports you in:
🐦🔥 Uncovering hidden layers of how the mother wound has shaped your expectations of yourself and others - and guides you to reshaping your expectations in love
🐦🔥 Clarifies enmeshed bonds with your mother - and offers ways to find your independent personhood
🐦🔥 Illuminates where trust in love may have been interrupted - so you can reset your self-trust and trusting others
This is how to pre-order Come Back to Love by Robyn Vogel and get my gift:
🐦🔥 Click below to pre-order the book:
🐦🔥 After purchasing, use the second button to enter your name and receive your gift:
This is my endorsement for Robyn’s book:
"Robyn’s work is a timely testament that healing the mother wound is not only possible, but profoundly liberating. She writes with such tenderness and truth that her words stay with you from the first page to the last. At a moment when so many women who’ve been undermothered are seeking guidance and inspiration to create relationships that feel more empowering than their past, Come Back to Love truly delivers.
If you’ve been moving through life carrying an emotional weight that feels all too familiar, this book offers a reminder that you’re not alone—along with practices that blend seamlessly into daily life and a clear Four Gates path to reclaim the love you deserve."
P.S. Soon I’ll start sharing about Reset, my new group for women who are done second guessing themselves so they can have stronger relationship with themselves and others 👉 You can already LEARN ABOUT RESET HERE
Learn how coming back to love becomes possible with healing the mother wound in my private podcast BirthRite. Add your details below and you'll get immediate access to your free episodes 👇
Shelly is a trauma-informed, certified Hakomi therapist helping women who've had a complex relationship with their mother discover the hidden impacts of the mother wound 👉 so they can thrive in their lives & careers
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