RESET
For women who are done second-guessing themselves and ready to reclaim their self-trust — in relationship with themselves and others
You can’t rewind your past, but you can reset how you relate to yourself now
You’re a strong woman who has created so much in your life. You’re not starting from scratch and this is not your first rodeo.
Your ambitions, creativity or wild spirit helped you move on from a challenging childhood with your mother.
Now, your dreams are fulfilled, you've got your village (who are like the family you’ve never had) and perhaps even your own family, and still — strength hasn’t translated into ease when it comes to trusting yourself in moments that matter to you:
Hesitating before naming what you want
Overthinking decisions that matter to you
Scanning for others’ reactions and expectations before trusting your own
You know what you shouldn’t tolerate — but feel unsure when it’s time to leave, stay, or speak.
The grief of the mother wound is like a shadow that casts a shade of doubt, insecurity or a sense of undeserving when you want to trust yourself and others where it really matters.
You might be wondering (quite often but only to yourself)
“How’s my past/present relationship with my mother forcing me to settle?”
You want to be true to yourself, but you’re either not sure what true is any longer, or something’s stopping you from trusting (and following) inner voices that encourage you to trust your instincts, your decisions, your feelings and needs.
The mother wound is a rupture in our relationships to ourselves, others and life itself, starting in the challenging relationship with our mother
You were given the impossible task to be your mum’s protector or confidant but it didn’t teach you how to protect your own needs and boundaries—so now protecting your own needs and boundaries is an unfamiliar territory or you keep pushing against a possible betrayal of your boundaries even when it’s not there
When you’re undermothered as a child, you grow up replaying the same scripts as an adult:
Perhaps you were constantly criticised by your mum— she had endless remarks on your body, she didn’t like your friends or snapped without explanation, so now you’ve got an internal criticising voice that follows your wishes, needs and decisions.
Even though it doesn’t earn you rewards, it’s as if you can’t help but trying to impress your mum, your friends or colleagues
But maybe for you, the parentified child who cooked, cleaned, organised and reminded adult stuff to your mum, is now feeling the weight you carried all those years. Decisions that are meaningful for you now feel more dramatic than they should be, and when your friends want to help you say something like ”I’m fine, I don’t really need that”
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It’s time to rewrite the scripts you were given — or those you had no choice by to adopt— and recentre at the core of who you’ve always been and wanted to be
It’s time to reset the tone of the inner voices (you know that endless ping pong) which undermine your trust and reconnect with who you know yourself to truly be
Now you’re here because….
You know you can’t fix your mum (or anyone else) but the impulse to try again hasn’t died
Perhaps you’re standing at a crossroad and can’t feel safe enough to take the one that speaks to you the most
And even if it seems like other people make decisions with ease, while you hesitate and overthink, you know it’s time you filter through well-meaning advice (or the unsolicited ones) so you can clear out the confusion to set yourself into self-trust
You probably have gained a good understand how your relationship with your mother shaped your patterns, beliefs, and self-doubt… but also know that insight alone hasn’t freed you the way you wish
You’ve learned from experience that changing the outside—switching jobs, even countries, blocking your mum’s texts or looking for a new partner or friends—doesn’t change the fact that your ability to trust yourself follows you everywhere you go
The RESET you’re yearning for is to cut through these familiar loops
So you can recentre into feeling enough trust with your true core
Reset from expecting a rejection when you state your needs to your partner to being assertive and having confidence in setting your boundaries.
Reset from waiting to “feeling ready” to start your business to throwing your hat in the ring for opportunities you want, knowing you’ll be OK no matter what the outcome.
Reset from answering “what’s for dinner” every damn day, to trusting someone else to answer it (and no one to die) for one evening.
Reset from expecting the sting of silent treatment when you ask your mum to stop calling dozens of times a day to confidently say the things that matter to you anyway.
Reset from prioritising what your friends say you should do with your life to defining what you actually want and need.
Reset from going on “just one more date” to confidently walking away from early signs of disappointment.
You’re invited to Reset
A 4-week, experience-based live group for women who want to anchor into self-trust
For the undermothered woman who's done only talking about the past and is invested in gaining practical anchors in self-confidence and inner delight
Reset can give you:
The skills to building a sense of safety so you can identify who is safe for you — so you can choose to stay or leave people and situations without working hard or feeling guilt
A way to discern between intuition, self-doubt, fear – so you can make empowered decisions
Recognising the cues of feeling safe in the relationship with yourself or others — so you can stop trying harder to get what you need
Building the confidence to clarify what kind of woman you want to be for yourself, your children, your partner or friends – so you can make the shifts you want to apply without the fear of losing or making a mistake
Identifying the moments when you’re managed by harmful inner voices – so you gain practical anchors to break free from them
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Building blocks to bridging the gap between where you’re at now and where you want to be in trusting yourself or the relationships in your life
Hi, I’m Shelly
A trauma-informed, certified Hakomi therapist who’s passionate about helping women who’ve had a challenging relationship with their mother unpack how it holds them back today so they can thrive in their lives and careers.
I've had many reset moments in my life, but the one that led me forward without second thoughts is when I started healing my one mother wound and reshape the way I look at myself.
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RESET IS FOR YOU IF
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You’ve had enough of carrying quietly your mother wound’s emotional bag and you’re ready to reset your emotional well-being
You’ve tried meditation and ‘breathing out’ but when you’re triggered it doesn't work
You’ve had enough with talk therapy and you’re curious about applying somatic practice to see changes in your daily life
THIS IS NOT FOR YOU IF
You’re looking for a quick solutions and fixes
You’re not able to invest 10 minutes a week to practice
You’re planning to rely just on meeting recordings
You’re currently in a crisis and experiencing recurring dissociation
Reset validates your true self as a true friend
"I found Shelly Sharon's offering to be extremely soothing and supportive. The idea of resting and relaxing instead of efforting was really a draw for me. We learn in our culture that efforting is what is required but truly relaxing is what allows us to receive. I found Shelly's class to be a somatic experience of just that....being able to relax and receive and learn that I will receive every more when I'm resting (and not over-efforting!). I also gained insight into why I've been over-efforting all these years. Extremely valuable information! Thank you Shelly!"
Robyn Vogel, Come Back to Love
THIS IS A LIVE GROUP MEETING BECAUSE:
The mother wound is a relational wound
You don’t need another book, a youtube tutorial or DIY course. You need to reset your instinct of tuning in to your self-trust within a relationship so you can navigate between respecting your needs, desires and dreams with a relational dynamic without fear of losing or guilt.
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The mother wound as a solitary struggle
To break free from shame, feeling small or undeserving the connection with other women who know have experienced the mother wound know–even if their life story is a bit different than yours— help you amplify self-trust.
Healing the mother wound requires integration experiences
Healing childhood wounds and recentering into self-trust happens when you integrate experiences and insights in real time rather than in absorbing one more piece of information (or someone else's interpretation) passively. Healing the mother wound happens in a feedback mechanism that you can feel, see, witness, and hear.
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Reset is reorienting from ‘I know’ to ‘I am’
HOW RESET WORKS
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Meetings are live and focused on real time experience and connection
Each meeting will have a focused guidance for your daily life application
Cameras on – making connection and feeling safe in being vulnerable can’t happen with black squares
Each meeting incorporates a few digestible nuggets of teaching, Hakomi-based practices in the group, pairs or small groups and a feedback & sharing in the big group
Recordings will be available only for the teaching parts - which will be short and sweet
Private slack – for communication in between meetings (which you’re highly encouraged to join but not obliged to), sharing or bringing in questions about your application in daily life
WEEK BY WEEK RUN THROUGH
01
Week
Safety & Orientation
Learning to recognise how safe you expect to feel in relationship with yourself or with others and what orientation towards your core self looks like
02
Week
Trust in Relationships
Understanding relational dynamics that confuse self-trust, so you can tell the difference between self-doubt, fear, and genuine relational misalignment.
03
Week
Inner Authority
Discerning between your voice and others’ so you can create a stronger relationship with your inner guidance and move away from feeling small
04
Week
Forming intentions from self-trust
Identifying how to reset into intentions based on self-connection so uncertainty turns into courage