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Heart of the Matter

Needs assessment

How ready are you to take the next step so you can

feel the way you want to feel?

What really prevents you from making the changes you long for?

Why is it so damn hard to just ask for what you need?

Discovering what needs to happen in order

to be able to take the next step

is like having a window of opportunity

Does any of this sound familiar?


You feel soooo ready to make a change or get rid of unhelpful habits,

yet you're feeling frustrated that in spite of the wealth of self-knowledge you've gained

certain sticky patterns still resist change.

Perhaps you're burning to stop moving around from job to job/relationships to relationship,

aching to take action on your new path and leave the old suffocating career

or begin living from the heart (and not just the head)

but you don't know where to start, what it takes, or how long it takes.

It could be that, after all, the hardest part is to feel burdened by shame or guilt

when feeling needy. It stifles your voice, and though you know that 'no one gets there alone,'

you stumble nonetheless on asking for what you need.

Like many of us you've probably grown up hearing that you need to take care of your needs alone, that you shouldn't be needy, and when you're not sure how to accomplish your needs and dreams you should just work harder at figuring it all out.

But the reality is that it's much easier to say or imagine where you'd like to be in life, and much harder to say what's really needed to get there.

If you've had some professional support before, maybe you already know how good it feels and how valuable it is to have someone who's totally by your side and points out to you what you're not seeing so you can take the right actions.

And if that didn't work out as you wished or it's your first time  to seek this kind of support it can be difficult to imagine how this works, what you can expect, who's the right person for you,

or even...what the indications are that you need help, now rather than later.

The Heart of the Matter session is....


An opportunity to get clear on what you need right now in order to make a shift from where you're at to where you want to be in life.

Like a physical check-up that tells you whether your blood pressure is too low or what the right nutrition for your body is, Heart of the Matter is an assessment of your emotional pulse, helping you get to the core of what's needed so you can make the next step towards feeling as you want to feel in your life.

It's for you if....


  • You want immediate support to help you get clear on the stages you'll need to get through in order to resolve your current life-challenges

  • You're not even sure whether you need any coaching to help you out with moving forward or not

  • You can say how you want to feel and what you're struggling with but not what you need in order to untangle yourself

  • You've tried things before to resolve the issues on your heart, but they were not entirely helpful and now you're hesitant about getting help

  • It feels like you're ready to make a change but you still don't do it

  • You want to have a taste of my work

"Shelly is an emotional, mental and energetic genius/detective. Her ability to hold space and invite you into places inside of yourself you didn't know where there is exquisite.


As a therapist myself, it's rare for someone to be able to support and guide me through blocks in my growth.


Thank you for allowing me to open my heart and mind, Shelly. "

Amber Hawken, Australia

Meditation teacher, Therpasit & founder of Calm Mind Co




I'm an extro-introvert, a rebel against labels who loves to be surprised and find new means of expression.


I've been driven all my life by the hunger to understand what it means to be JUST ME. It has terrified and fascinated me at the same time.

My journey was not a straight line. I have been a computer programmer, a professional dancer, a chef, a coffee shop owner and a business consultant for effective social change.

Over the past 20 years I've sat in over a dozen long silent meditation retreats, getting intimate with the scariest inner demons and most precious places within myself. It has taught me how to help others to disentangle from emotional knots and feel at home with themselves.


HEART OF THE MATTER is a 60-minute coaching call via Zoom focussing on helping you map your needs and clarify what kind of support would be best for you.


You'll come out with three actionable suggestions to move towards your goals.

You'll also receive a recording of the call.

If at the end of the call there's a mutual desire to take this further, I'll be happy to share with you what I can offer.

The coaching call is offered on pay-from-the-heart basis. You can set the rate for this call giving straight from your heart.


  • Click the link below to book a time for a coaching call of 60 minutes

  • Fill out the application form to help me prepare for our call

  • You'll receive a confirmation email with a zoom link to our call AND a link to paypal to make your pay-from-the-heart

  • Once your payment is received, your booking is complete and we're ready to have fun while going deep

"In a sea of healers, practitioners, therapists and the like — Shelly and her gifts stand out.

I felt genuinely loved and cared for in her presence. Shelly is wise and authentic, practical too, and has unwavering faith."

Stephanie K., New-York



"I was at the point where I didn’t know how to handle the dynamic of my relationship with my mum anymore.

I love the combination of practical inputs and at the same time, being guided into meditation and allowing the messages to come from within that space."

Andrina Tisi, Switzerland.

Coach & Teacher


Some FAQs:

Pay-from-the-heart confuses me. Can you give me direction?

Some feel really relieved to be able to set a rate that matches their integrity and their financial capacity, but I understand also that you may want to have some frame of reference in order to feel comfortable choosing your amount.

Normally, this Heart of the Matter call is 100CHF (110USD) and my coaching packages start from 2500CHF for 3 months' coaching. You can choose to give more or less for this call. Check in with your heart, and I really invite you to honour whatever you feel is mutually supportive.

Is this call just a promo to a sales pitch?

Heart of the Matter is for you if you're hungry to learn what you need in order to move out of stuckness or emotional knots and are curious about my work. Hopefully, this page has given you a clear picture of what I'm offering so you can feel safe in the knowledge that everything is out in the open.


I help people in your situation through one-to-one coaching and meditation courses. However, this call might already be enough for you, or I might refer you to someone who I feel would be more suited to helping you with your next step. If at the end of the call there's a mutual desire to take this further, I'll be happy to share with you what I offer.

How do I know if I'm ready for this?

The nature of Heart of the Matter is to help you assess your readiness to move towards your desired life experience. In other words, for this call you needn't worry about being ready because the whole point of it is to help you become ready for your next step.

Whether you know how you want to feel but are not sure how to get there, you've been simmering with the same issue/question for a while, you've been hesitant about coaching packages generally and need a gentler way in, or you're hungry for a snapshot of what you can't see by yourself, then Heart of the Matter is designed with you in mind.

What's the difference between Heart of the Matter and your free get-together call?

This is a great question! I offer a free get-together call for people who are interested in the longer coaching packages (3 or 6 months). As you'll see, the Life Alignment coaching page goes into quite considerable detail about what it offers and whom it is for.


People who reach out for a get-together call have a sense that they are likely interested in a coaching package and want to get a better sense of who I am and share more about their personal needs. Heart of the Matter, on the other hand, is for those who haven't reached that stage yet or need some extra guidance to feel safer in taking the next step.


You are very welcome to book a free get-together call if it looks like a better fit for your needs. If you're not clear on what the next step entails and need to get some map, like an action plan, Heart of the Matter would be more suited for you.

Get clarity on what you need in order to come out of emotional knots or make a shift you long for

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